General Smut & Kink Letter

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Kinks are listed in alphabetical order. My favs are highlighted for your convenience.

I'm am also generally quite fond of all sorts of quasi smut, things that are sfw in theory but definitely don't feel like it, messy eating of fruit while holding eye contact, sensual wound fingering, medical or hygienic care that's a little too intimate, sharing a smoke instead of a kiss, stroking a boot instead of a cock, strange face touches, gutting game together, choking, kissing tears away, licking sweat, hair pulling, manhandling, gore celebrated like smut, kink without the intercourse.

I like non-penetrative intercourse, in particular when it comes to first times and inexperienced partners, so don't ever feel forced to "go all the way".

I like all sorts of bodies, not just conventionally attractive ones and don't mind mentions of fat, body hair, scars, folds, sagging, discoloration and so on. And I personally think they can add a lot to a scene.

Spit as lube for anal sex is absolutely.perfectly.fine. by me if you're going for something that's not domestic marathon fucking, e.g. a quick casual encounter. Or you want it to hurt. Also no need for the one-two-three fingers routine.

You can't really gross me out. I like gross.

With m/m I'm really, really fond of dynamics that don't adhere to masc dom top/femme sub bottom. I like power bottoms, muscle bottoms, older bottoms, feminine tops, service tops, switching and so on. But I don't mind adherence to societal expectations in settings like e.g. ancient Rome, where it would make perfect sense for someone to consider themselves too manly to bottom (but I also think it's extra hot when they do it anyway).

[Unless otherwise specified in my sign-up/DNWs] I don't specifically ask for trans characters, if you want to write them I might be a bit picky. I am okay with piv for trans men (and would prefer it when bottoming... I have a bit of a soft spot for T4T piv), but I am also super into trans men topping. I don't want trans identities to be a big deal or problematized. I don't want to read dysphoria. I would prefer not to read much about chest binding or chest scars or neo genitalia, I don't want to read about specific sexual acts making the trans character feeling validated in their identity and I absolutely do not want to read any kind of corrective rape or mental distress derived from specific sexual acts like bottoming or piv. And in general I'd prefer no noncon/dubcon with trans participants just to avoid all pitfalls. I have no preference about which terms to use for genitalia, i.e. call it a dick or a clit or both.

• Abuse of Authority
• Arousal from Violence
• Asexual Character/Celibate Characters (having sex willingly or unwillingly, uncomfortably, with detachment, repulsion, or in case of celibate characters being overwhelmed by desire)
• Awkward Sex / Uncomfortable Sex
• Bestiality (Forced Bestiality, noncon, ravishment by beasts, twisted stuff, nothing consensual and loving)
• Blowjobs
• Body Contrast
• Body Hair (pubes, chest, thighs, belly, pits, ass, basically everywhere)
• Body Worship (in particular worship of an older character by a younger and worship of "flaws", injuries and scars, loose holes, soft cocks, signs of age, things the recipient might be proud or ashamed of)
• Bondage (in particular blindfolds, collars, fabric gags, rope, honor and predicament bondage - I usually prefer stuff that feels like you didn't have to buy it in a sex shop)
• Choking / Breathplay
• Class or Societal Status (and all the differences! Subversions in the bedroom, the refined kinking on the rough and vice versa)
• Clinical Dirty Talk
• Clothing (clothed sex, clothed/naked, costumes, military uniforms)
• Complex Power Dynamics (D/s but I'm not saying who is who)
• Crying
• Cunnilingus
• Displays of Fealty
• Dominant Masochism
• Drugs (alcohol, roofies, aphrodisiacs, opiates, hallucinogenics, you name it)
• Dubious Consent
• Enemies With Benefits
• Enthusiastic Consent
• Exhaustion (see also Loss of Control)
• Experience Differences (Experienced Bottom/Inexperienced Top, Experienced Partner Lets Inexperienced One Explore Them, older virgin is guided by more experienced younger partner)
• Face-Fucking
• Face-Sitting
• Falsely Gentle Threatening Touches
• Felching
• Femdom (I like a variety of kinds of femdom but brutal aggressive domination is so rare that I often ask for it)
• Feminization (of masculine men, e.g. calling enormous pecs tits, calling assholes cunts, calling dicks clits, calling men cute and pretty... I'm super into that as long as it's not explicitly supposed to be humiliating and e.g. big beefy guys are still described as big beefy by the narrative, and when it comes to guys dressing up in women's clothing I much prefer it not to be forced but enthusiastic)
• Feral Behavior (biting, licking, sniffing, scratching etc)
• Fingersucking (and fucking the partner’s mouth with fingers)
• Fingering After Fucking (to cause distress, to get them off, for the pleasure of it being extra loose and sloppy, perhaps after a creampie)
• Forced Arousal
• Forced Masturbation (in particular men having to finger their asses)
• Frottage
• Hairpulling
• Handjobs
• Hand and Finger Kink
• Hate Sex
• Historical Gay Subcultures & Meeting Places
• Hurt/Comfort (also when the hurt was caused by the comforting party)
• Impact (whipping, caning)
  
• Inner Thigh Kisses
• Intercrural Sex (as a historical practice, as denial and teasing)
  
• Intergluteal Sex (as a historical practice, as denial and teasing)
  
• Internalized Homophobia (and also denial of homosexual attraction, no homo-ing while very much engaging in homosexual acts)
• Just the Tip (coming from just the tip, kinking on the denial specifically, just enjoying the feeling, either actually keeping it at just the tip to or it eventually being more than the tip - especially if it's the bottom who's pushy and needy) 
• Kneeling (all variations of it, for a sex act, as display of fealty and submission)
• Leather
• Limp Dicks (before sex, after sex, during sex, while receiving anal penetration, I just think they are cute)
• Loss of Control (loss of control over the own body is THE big one, also break the haughty and stoic character not so stoic anymore fall under this)
• Loyalty Kink (especially when teased and tested from outside forces)
• Manhandling (bottom held down, top held down, wrestling for dominance, delight in brutality)
• Masochism (pain sluts, pain as punishment, pain as awful coping mechanism, pain/exhaustion to achieve peace of mind, seeking one's own limits, pride in endurance)
• Medical Kink
• Men's chests (muscular chests, chubby chests, hairy chests, nipple play, feel free to call them tits I kink on it)
• Menstrual Sex
• Military Kink
• Monsterfucking
• Multiple Orgasms
• Mutual Masturbation
• Noncon (in particular Break the Haughty and Gangrape but it's all fun except no-no-yes kind of ravishment)
• Oral Fixation
• Pain Kink/Painful Sex
• Pegging
• Power Imbalance
• Premature Ejaculation (and not coming at the same time in general)
• Prostate Orgasm
• Rough Sex
• Rule 63 (especially if you keep the characters basically the same, especially if they are men wading in toxic masculinity)
• Sadism (tender or cruel)
• Scat (anal sex accidents, used to humiliate the bottom OR as signs of intimacy as in, it's okay you did that. Mentions of dirt in general on the body, genitals. But preferably everything close to the body, not like eating shit from a bucket) 
• Service Top
• Situational Homosexuality (military, navy, prison, just bros being bros)
• Size (size differences! small top and bigger fatter and/or more muscular bottom especially, small penises too)
• Somnophilia (fondling, masturbation, loving oral sex, victim getting fucked, victim wakes up and feels violated but loves it - or doesn't, half-consciousness)
• Sounding (we must penetrate all the holes)
• Spit, Sweat and Dirt (licking pits, kinking on strong BO, spitting in mouth, spitting on holes, all the grossness and intimacy a)
• Switching
• Thighs (bite them, fuck them, describe them lovingly)
• Touch-Starved
• Topping from the Bottom
• Trust Kink
• Unexpected Tenderness During Rough Sex
• Unhygienic Sex
• Unreciprocated Orgasm
• Vomiting (as result of emotional turmoil, pain, oral rape, illness) 
• Watersports (Wetting during violent rape, pissing inside someone, pissing on someone, as intimacy, as humiliation, as reaction to extreme pain and illness, but nothing infantilizing, no diapers, no conditioning or fear wetting unless I guess it's like eldritch horrors kind of fear)
• Wet & Messy
• Wound Fingering

if a kink has disappeared from this list since you last checked it, that doesn't mean I dislike it now, I'm just trying to cut this down a bit.